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Who is creating problems in your life?

You co-create your reality. You think that you and only you are responsible for what happens around you. This is true to a large extent, but there are a few more variables involved. Life becomes a lot easier once you understand what these variables are.

Research shows us that human beings are hardwired for justice. If someone gets more than us, we are not happy. What is more interesting is that, we will make sure that they also remain unhappy.

The researchers conducted a fascinating experiment. In each experiment there would be two people: A and B. AA would be given $ 100 in return, and he could decide how the money would be divided. Once he had decided the proportion into which the money would be divided, it was up to B to decide whether they could keep the money or not.

An important point to keep in mind was that it was about free money. A and B kept the money (after the experiment) if B decided that they could both keep the money.

In many cases, A decided to divide the money 50/50. YB thought this was fair enough, so B decided that they could both keep the money.

At some point, things got very interesting. In cases where A decided to split it 70/30, B decided that neither of them would keep the money, even if B received $ 30 free (of course, A received $ 70 free, which B thought was not just). .

Now researchers thought that people in the west really didn’t care for small amounts like a hundred dollars. So they decided to carry out this experiment in third world countries, where one could buy food for a whole month for $ 30.

The researchers were confident that in third world countries, B would never reject $ 30, even if A received $ 70. But something very strange happened.

Even in third world countries, B did not want $ 30 (the purchase of a free month) because A had unfairly divided $ 100. Yes, B was getting a full month of free groceries, but B decided to give it up because B thought it unfair for A to keep $ 70 (which equates to two months of groceries).

In hindsight, B was shooting himself in the foot. His reasoning should have been: it’s okay if A keeps $ 70, with the $ 30 I have, I can at least feed my family this month (without stress) or I can do something special for them.

We believe that we are saints, but this experiment shows very clearly that we are programmed for justice. Or in other words, we will prevent other people from being happy or successful, if they are going to experience much higher levels of happiness or success than we are currently experiencing.

Your environment (success or failure) is influenced by your energy, as well as the energy of your family, friends, and colleagues at work. Consciously they can say good things about you, but unconsciously it is the opposite. It happens automatically, it is not their fault. But you must be aware of this. The energy within (until you realize it) is too powerful to override.

This is what is happening deep within us: as long as you are suffering with me, I am happy. If I am suffering but you are not, I will see to it that you suffer too.

This leads us to the conclusion that you should choose your environment and the people around you very carefully. Make a list (on paper) of all the people you know and ask yourself if they really want to see you happy. If the answer is negative, stay away from them. How can you tell if they care about your true interests? It’s very simple. There is a saying: actions speak louder than words. Those who don’t want to see you succeed will do things that will betray their inner thoughts, they will do the opposite of what they say.

When you are single or divorced, it is very likely that you are surrounded by single or divorced people. The likes attracts the likes and there is nothing wrong with it. So when that special someone comes into your life, remember that those who are single or divorced are wired for justice.

If they are single, unconsciously (on the surface it is all smiles) they are not happy when you meet someone. And without their knowledge or your knowledge, they sabotage your relationship with your special someone. Only your negative thoughts (you don’t even have to verbalize them) create problems in your relationship with your life partner.

This may come as a surprise, but your own mother or father may be creating problems because you are dating someone amazing. From what you know, they never got that chance, and since they are programmed for justice just like everyone else, they subconsciously sabotage your relationship.

Now, I am aware of the fact that some of you may have a wonderful relationship with your parents. But if you’re not around mom or dad, or if you’ve been away from home for a long time and your thoughts no longer match theirs (you’re on a completely different wavelength), then it’s better. keep your lover a secret until it’s time to get married.

When I mention this experiment to my students, almost everyone is able to recall an incident, in which their best friend or someone very close to them, did something or said something that did not make any sense (when my students were in a relationship that loved ones and close ones did not like it). They remember how it affected them, how it sowed those first seeds of doubt, and how the relationship fell apart before they had any clues as to what was really going on.

Again, in some cases the advice is relevant. But most of the time, the justice syndrome kicks in, and your loved ones and close ones will do whatever it takes to maintain the status quo.