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You often hear people say that they can’t draw because they don’t have ‘the talent’ to even draw a straight line. When did someone say to you “Oh, I can’t play the piano, I’m so clumsy!”?

Such negative mind programming often comes from critical parents, teachers, relatives, or peers. Loved ones, whom the child trusts and looks to for encouragement, affirmation, and support, often make derogatory and ridiculous comments, ignore the child’s commendable achievements, and simply focus on the negative. Such events, in childhood or in adulthood, can damage self-esteem and destroy confidence in anyone, minimizing the chances of reaching their full potential. Often these negative events, hurts, or appraisals are absorbed and buried in subconscious memory, with the person totally unaware of the sources of troublesome feelings, fear, doubt, and hurtful attitudes.

Unless there is some kind of physical or mental disability preventing it, almost anyone can learn to play the piano proficiently or draw aesthetically. But what really gets in the way is almost always a simple lack of time, motivation, or energy to learn the principles and then practice enough to become proficient.

It only takes desire, time, the right teacher and the belief that it is possible.

The late Eleanor Roosevelt said: “You must do what you think you cannot do.“The best thing is that when you do it, your confidence soars every time!

Develop your Confidence and Motivation: Self-esteem and self-confidence are essential for human progress. Self-esteem is essential for friendships, work, love, relationships, ambitions and goals, even for health itself. A person must love, respect and admire the person he sees in the mirror. Self-confidence is necessary to achieve; however, it requires self-esteem to be effective.

High self-esteem is a basic ingredient for success. Low self-esteem must be addressed before progress can be made in developing self-confidence and building motivation. It’s hard for a person to show confidence when he sees himself as a low man on his own totem pole.

Low self-esteem, however, does not appear suddenly, like the symptom of a disease. It develops, like a cancer, usually unnoticed in the early stages, but slowly spreads through the mind until, when recognized, it can be fully developed and demoralizingly destructive.

To establish self-confidence, remove past negative programming by removing from your self-perception any labels such as bad, wrong, stupid, clumsy, dumb, inept, untalented, ignorant, etc. Eliminate mind-chaining fears and reduce negative internal judgments so that positive feelings and self-confidence can develop naturally.

If this is practiced consistently, mood and energy levels rise, psychosomatic symptoms fade, emotions clear, self-criticism is reduced, and positive feelings about life’s possibilities develop.

With improved self-esteem and confidence, enhanced motivation comes into focus. Essential to generating positive motivation is the elimination of any fear of failure. First, it’s important to acknowledge past successes and the motivations that led to them. Second, a sense of direction is needed (Where am I going?). Then comes the most important factor of “goal setting.” It is not the final goal, but rather a short-term and quickly achievable goal. Finally, in achieving this goal, a self-reward. This reward can be a gift to oneself or pride of achievement and self-satisfaction. It is important to understand the purpose of setting successive short-term goals. A little success builds additional confidence. Create a sense of readiness and excitement for the next step.

Neuro-Linguistic Programming it is a tool that you can use to increase your confidence levels. Neuro refers to our nervous system, the mental pathways of our five senses by which we see, hear, feel, taste, and smell. Linguistic it refers to our ability to use language and how specific words and phrases reflect our mental worlds. Linguistics also refers to our silent language of postures, gestures, and habits that reveal our thinking styles and beliefs. Programming is borrowed from computing, to suggest that our thoughts, feelings, and actions are simply habits or programs that have been written down over the years. It’s time for us to upgrade our mental software to achieve our goals!

NLP is based on very different principles than traditional psychology. While traditional clinical psychology is primarily concerned with describing difficulties, categorizing them, and looking for historical causes, NLP is interested in how our thoughts, actions, and feelings work together in this moment to produce our experience. Founded on the modern sciences of biology, linguistics and information, NLP begins with new principles of how the mind/brain works. It is about how we filter our experiences of the outside world through our five senses and how we use those same inner senses, both intentionally and unintentionally, to achieve the results we desire. Our specific thoughts, actions, and feelings consistently produce specific results. If we want to change our results, then we need to change the thoughts, actions, and feelings that go into producing them. Once we specifically understand how we create and maintain our internal thoughts and feelings, it is very easy for us to change them to more useful ones.

NLP connects our words, thoughts and behavior with our goals. Knowing what you want and finding the means to get it are an important part of NLP. Ask ‘so what?’ questions, prepare to act, keep your senses alert and learn to notice the results of your actions. Be prepared to change your behavior until you get what you want.

These are proven methods that can help us establish an unbreakable inner integration with the infinite powers of our inner selves. You start breaking down all the barriers that have prevented you from moving towards your dreams and aspirations.