How to live a happy married life!
Janet was the daughter of wealthy parents. Her father was a bag of money. She was a major shipper and distributor for a renowned brewing company in Ibadan, the capital of Oyo state in Nigeria. Janet belonged to a religious sect that inoculated her mind against being rich or prosperous on earth. She left her parents one night to live with her pastor in the mission house! His decision for her was based on the church’s doctrinal belief that her parents were sinners who would end up in hellfire! And that she, as a daughter of light, should have nothing to do with those who are children of darkness!
Janet had repeatedly refused her father’s demand for a bottle of beer and cigarettes on the grounds that they are from the devil. She had almost burned down the house when she burned her lace materials in the living room because the church believes that such textiles are not ideal for the children of light that she is.
Janet and John met at church, but John had gone astray at that point! He had just realized that religion was deceitful and that most church pastors and Christian leaders are not saints after all! Aside from the fact that he had caught his pastor in the same act of fornication (having illicit sex with the opposite sex), he had caught him right in the act of eating while the entire Church was on a three-week fast! days!
The pastor had declared the fast and all the members of the church religiously participated in it. On that fateful day, John was coming home from work around 4:00 pm He was supposed to go straight to church, but instead he went to his house to pick up his bible that he forgot to take with him in the morning. Wow! He found his shepherd cooling off with a stew of eba (cassava flour) and egusi (melon)!
Because of that experience and others, she had to advise Janet to go back to her parents and reconcile with them. She should go back to school and graduate from college. But she wouldn’t! She insisted on getting a job with her high school education. She would not go back to school for two reasons. The first reason is the church’s belief that Jesus Christ will appear in heaven shortly to take his home to heaven in the not too distant future. The second reason is that she had a terrible eye problem that used to hurt her in excruciating pain. She would not go through the stress of studies and hard work in light of that pain.
John advised her to get married and establish herself as a wife and mother. At least she would enjoy life for a while before the ecstasy happens, if it happens at all! It was at that moment that she claimed to be a virgin and that she was afraid, she did not want to lose her virginity except for the man who would marry her!
He was thrilled in his disbelief! A virgin! No! At least not with Janet’s physique, height and lifestyle! A 21 year old lady with a well built stature and graceful posture! Is a lie! He decided to confirm her claim. If it was true, then he would marry her!
He got away with it! He toasted her and promised to marry her if he would allow her to confirm that she was the virgin he claimed to be hers! She was and she got pregnant right after.
Janet and John lived together as husband and wife for more than twenty years with children born to them. The sad news about their relationship is that they had been together in different houses and places, but they were homeless! They were incompatible and Satan hides under their incompatibilities to make them unhappy!
She was born and grew up in wealth Juan in poverty. She had, loved and enjoyed comfort, John did not. She had access to a quality education with ease John with stress. She’s a couch potato, John a bookworm. She is a person of a phlegmatic nature. John has choleric. She sees no trouble ahead. John sees danger. She is older than Juan two years younger.
Looking back several years later, all John saw was disappointment, frustration, and depression. He had failed to reach one percent of his goal and ambition. Anger burns in him every day! He asks questions. Read stories of women in the Bible, the good ones and the bad ones. He sought to know about the lives of women in various homes of Muslims, Christians, pagans and moralists. Then he observed that the much feared Satan is a woman! What he suffered as a husband and father made him take that statement.
Beginning with Adam of the Bible, Janet came into John’s life and brought with her depression and pain! She imagined that Adam died of hypertension or one of the Cardio-Vascular diseases of today’s world. Lady. Abraham cheated on her husband, who married Ishmael’s mother Hagar, leading to religious rivalry in the world today. Delilah handed her husband over to her enemies. Herodias instigated her husband to become a murderer, killing John the Baptist. Jezebel supported her husband to oppress poor Naboth. Lady. Pothipar lied against the innocent Joseph and had her husband send him to prison. Job’s wife pressured her husband to curse God. The list goes on and on.
I don’t mean to make you laugh or feel sorry for John as you read this article. Rather, my goal is to make them see the need for them to be objective, focused, determined, and selective in their choice of marriage partner, whether as a wife or a husband. This is in view of the fact that what happens to you many years after your election may depend primarily on who you ultimately choose as your life partner! Choose wisely and you will be happy! Choose foolishly and you are not!
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